Archive - November, 2009

SPIRIT TRAINING: Good choice/bad choice: God choice/no choice

Do you teach your children that they can make good choices or bad choices? If you do, I encourage you to reconsider that question. Let me explain.

What makes a good choice? What makes a bad choice? I have heard it explained this way: “A good choice is good for you. A bad choice is bad for you.” Does that mean that a good choice makes you feel good and a bad choice makes you feel bad? Would smoking pot be a good choice?

Does it mean that a good choice helps you and a bad choice hurts you? Maybe lying saves you from a spanking—good choice or bad choice? Maybe cheating helps you pass a test—good choice or bad choice?

What do you mean when you say good?

Isaiah 5:20-21 “ Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter. Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes and clever in their own sight.” In our own generation, as in Isaiah’s time, people use these terms to suit their own ends.

How we explain good and evil or good and bad makes a difference. Continue Reading…

SPIRIT TRAINING: Getting to the “why”

1 Kings 1:5-6

Now Adonijah, whose mother was Haggith, put himself forward and said, “I will be king.” So he got chariots and horses ready, with fifty men to run ahead of him.

(His father had never interfered with him by asking, “Why do you behave as you do?”

King David had never asked Adonijah “why” he acted like he did. In other words, he had never addressed the issues of Adonijah’s heart. Continue Reading…

DISCIPLINE: Parents must interfere

1 Kings 1:5-6

Now Adonijah, whose mother was Haggith, put himself forward and said, “I will be king.” So he got chariots and horses ready, with fifty men to run ahead of him.

(His father had never interfered with him by asking, “Why do you behave as you do?” He was also very handsome and was born next after Absalom.)

 

It was David’s plan to make Solomon the next king. Adonijah, however, was the oldest surviving son and believed that he should be king.

King David was just too busy at the office to get involved with his son Adonijah. After all, he had a kingdom to run. Continue Reading…