Tag Archive - conflicts

A Strong-Willed Child Can “Wear You Slap Out”

picture of strong willed girl

She wears me "slap out."

What is a strong-willed child? Here’s my best definition:

“He won’t give up until you give in!”

The methods of each strong-willed child may be different, but the result is the same. They simply wear you down; or as my dad used to say, “I’m wore slap out.” Continue Reading…

RELATIONSHIP TRAINING: Teach in the calm; apply in the crisis

Problem? Name-calling, hurting words, flashing tempers, getting even, slamming doors, shutting out, feeling pain, causing pain. Always a crisis.

The best time to train and to teach is not in a CRISIS situation. Unfortunately, that’s when we usually try to do it. But when we’re doing that, we are way behind, and “playing catch-up” is hard. Continue Reading…

RELATIONSHIPS: Getting along is not natural

Getting along is not natural; it is supernatural. It will require godly parental involvement and judgment.

Last week, we began to discuss relationships in our homes. We saw that conflicts need our involvement. As parents, we have to stop what we are doing in order to bring help and healing into the relational conflicts that occur in the course of daily living.

So what do we actually do? How do you stop two fighting children who really are angry and hurt?

Here’s what we learned along the way. Continue Reading…

RELATIONSHIPS: “A little heaven on earth” at home

Occasionally as I am grading papers, I find that there is a little window into the souls and lives of my students, which actually is what I hope for.  I hope to build relationships, to get to know the kids that I teach.
Here are a couple of samples from the past:

“My brother loves to torment me about many things.”
“When I was little, my sister would taunt me with toys until I cried.” Continue Reading…

TRAINING: Say goodbye to bullies! Part 1

Are we training our kids to be victims? Or are we training them to be “more than conquerors”?
I think we are training them to be victims far too often.

I have read that as much as 90% of “bullying” is words. Just words. All of us have been hurt by words somewhere along the way, but I dare say that we have allowed ourselves to be hurt by them more than we should. Continue Reading…

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